Questions Won’t admit using meth? I have been “lurking” on this board for several days, and think you guys are awsome. I have several questions about meth use. I have never used, nor been around anyone who is using, but I have an old friend who I am positive is using now. I have not seen much of her in the last couple of years, but had heard she was using, so 2 other friends and I arranged to meet up with her for dinner, to see what her frame of mind is, and of course, to offer support. I have been reading about meth use constantly since finding this out, and I understand that she has to admit she has a problem
Life on meth: my daughter’s addiction
How do I save our relationship? Hi- I am brand new and looking for some help, I have read some of the postings prior and they all tell the story of my own life. I am not an addict myself, actually I am not a meth addict but I supose that in some other form I am an addict too. I had been living with my boyfriend for about six months when I found his pipe. When confronted he was uncensored in telling me everything, he was a frequent user and had been the entire time I had been dating him.
My best friend “Kerri” is dating a man I don’t like. We’re both adults (24) and she can date anyone she wants to, but this guy is a drug dealer and I’ve heard that he also breaks into houses.
Dear JoAnn, I would like to preface this by saying that I have yet to determine whether my husband is a sex addict with a compulsion to consume porn, surf escort sites, and sleep with prostitutes OR an entitled, narcissistic bastard who believes these behaviors are acceptable and deserved by him and is just apologizing and trying to make amends simply because he was caught. That said… I have always felt a distance from my husband — a certain disconnection on his part that was exacerbated by his minimal ability to empathize w others and his obsession w himself.
For example, he is the kind of man who will steer the conversation to himself, will talk at length about himself almost like a monologue w little room for others input or a give and take , but will rarely, if ever, ask any questions of anyone else in the room. When conversation turns away from him, he is on his iPhone or will even take out his computer, completely ignoring the social situation around him.
Everything is about him — his pain, his frustration, his discomfort. I have come to think of him as a chronic malcontent. This stands in stark contrast to the man he purported to be at the beginning of our relationship almost ten years ago. The real man is a hairs breadth from freaking out about the smallest thing.
Dating an Alcoholic Run Like Hell! ~ Trista Hendren
He is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in the states Read More Does someone you love abuse drugs and alcohol? Are you at the point where you are filled with despair and worry about this person? Are you unwittingly helping this loved one remain addicted? If the answer to all of these questions is yes, then you are engaged in codependent and enabling behavior:
A relationship with an active drug addict is inherently dysfunctional. They love you but then steal from you, lie at every turn and trick you into believing their lies.
Sounds like good news, right? Wrong, if you are serious about your drug addiction recovery. Unfortunately, starting a romance when you are newly sober could be a costly mistake. If you are living a solid healthy life, you can handle the ups and downs of a new relationship. But if you are just getting things together as a newly recovering drug addict, a romance can be way too distracting. Alcoholics Anonymous has a specific guideline about getting into a relationship during recovery. They strongly encourage a person to wait until they have been sober for at least a year before they start dating.
For some, this may seem strict, even beyond the bounds of a self-help group. Good stable relationships are for people who have a good life and are ready to give of themselves to another person.
ONLINE PARENTING COACH: My Child the “Drug Dealer”
A female reader, anonymous, writes 31 March I know this is an old post, but it appears that people are still reading it and replying, even after 3 years. While I don’t know the ultimate fate of the relationship of the particular girl who posted the question, I feel it is something a LOT of us are going through and it ought to be addressed, for the sake of many families or soon-to-be-families out there.
I am a young woman 21 years dating a guy my age who has a 2 year old daughter. He’s not even divorced from his wife; they’re still sorting out custody issues. She lives two states away, thank goodness.
My daughter, who is 19, is dating a 26 year old (yeah, I’m not happy about that either) who has had drug and alcohol problems since his teens. He has not had a drink for 6 months, which is great. Not taking any drugs that I know of.
Jasmine is in her 60s and rearing her grandchildren. It quickly went from there – drug use and then domestic violence,” Jasmine said. I noticed some changes – her behaviour, the secrecy and lies. I just didn’t have all the pieces to the puzzle at that stage. That’s the problem, you don’t get all the pieces in the beginning. Her self-worth was down to nothing, she was lost, she really had no life. After that abusive relationship ended she met a third guy and he turned out worse than the other two.
She was such a beautiful person, but she is lost to drugs. The emotions run deep, are so raw, it shatters your life and throws you into places that you have never been before. They all ask why you still support your child, but you can’t give up. That phone call saved me. A local support group and the annual Stepping Stones program operate in Coffs Harbour.
Ask Rene: My Friend Is Dating A Drug Dealer! Should I Say Anything
Chaos naturally accompanies the disease of addiction. What used to be a happy home can quickly take on the appearance of a circus — especially if your spouse is actively abusing drugs. What about your feelings, wants and needs? Her husband, Tom, spent the last six years of their year marriage addicted to OxyContin and heroin. She eventually realized something had to change and that change had to come from within.
We cannot go anywhere without someone asking us, “how can I tell my friend-daughter-sister-niece-cousin she is dating the wrong guy?” However, when it comes to the college crowd, they usually say I would never say anything to a friend. Or “I’ve done that once and been burned.
As a baby she never ate or slept. She always made her younger brothers do things to get introuble. As a teen she started to fail school and hang with the wrong crowd. As an adult, she has had 22 jobs,dropped out of college has no respect for me at all. Then she started dating this druggie after knowing better. I come from a family of drug addicts. My mom dad and brother. I watched them all lose everything and die.
Won’t admit using Meth
SHARE After dating one dud after another, you finally find someone who seems to have it all — thoughtful, witty, responsible — and good-looking to boot. Then they drop a bomb: They have learned critical relationship skills, including how to identify, process and communicate their emotions and to set personal boundaries while respecting the lines drawn by others.
My mother has been a hardcore drug addict for over 30 years. She went to prison for the first time when she was pregnant with me for selling and using meth. When I was born, she opted to put ‘unknown’ for my father because she was afraid he would clean up and try to get custody of me.
I was 16 when my mother try to arrange my marriage with a man that in his late 30s. I waited till I turn 18 and ran away from home. I felt alone like it was only me against the world. I started to go to college while I escort on the side. Taking a break from college now. I had recently dated a guy for four months, although we broke up a month ago prior to writing this.
I worked six-seven days a week in a nail salon during the summer and quit the salon when it gets cold. I was always gone all night long working my side job until i get tired. This guy that I’m dating lived a block down from me and we met at the gas station a block down from us. I’ve seen him three times at that gas station and got his number. Every time I saw him at that gas station that was when I’m gasing up so i can be on my way to a date or other times leaving this small town and to party downtown at a city that is 10 minutes away.
Codependent and Enabling Behaviors
By David Sack, M. They love you but then steal from you, lie at every turn and trick you into believing their lies. The Illusion of Choice Although understandable, the question misinterprets the nature of addiction. Their behavior is reflexive and automatic, based on a physical and psychological need for a substance. Drugs flood the brain with dopamine, training the brain to rely on the relief they provide and to assign greater value to drugs than other things needed for happiness and survival.
Over time, addiction changes the chemistry and function of the brain, robbing the user of control and thus taking away the possibility of choice.
A father has written a heartfelt open letter about his teenage daughter’s drug addiction in a bid to reverse a tide of substance abuse by young people in his home town. Sean O’Leary, of Kanata.
My beautiful, college educated, well employed, 24 year old daughter is dating a guy who has a criminal record felony , a history of addiction, does not have a driver’s license, is currently unemployed and is currently in the process of filing bankruptcy. He is 29 years old. Was I upset and concerned when she started dating him? They live together in a major city about 45 minutes away from us. Honestly, I didn’t think he was good enough for her Of course, his parents LOVE my daughter to pieces and think she is his angel.
My initial thoughts were As things were getting serious-er and her BF started throwing out stuff like “I’m going to marry her” or “I’m going to get her a ring for Christmas” while I was thinking You don’t have a job. I sat down with my daughter and explained that I have no control over who she chooses to date and I will accept him as long as he treats her well and she is happy BUT I would not be doing my job as her mother and as a person who loves her with all my heart if I did not explain that if she chose to marry him